No, I haven’t dropped off the face of the earth. I was going so strong with posting a new blog almost every day or at the minimum every other day. But, this was a short week. Monday was spent with family (both blood and Fire) remembering those who gave their life for our freedom.
So tonight I’m taking a bit of time to say hello and chat about something near and dear to my heart and my firefighter’s heart: The Fire Wife Sisterhood by http://www.firefighterwife.com. This is a topic that has been on my mind for much of the week as I prepare for my first presentation Monday night. I’ve been invited by Knox Fire to give a presentation on the Sisterhood and why every Wife, Girlfriend or Fiance of a firefighter needs to be a member of the Sisterhood.
I think my biggest hurdle is not that there isn’t enough to talk about… it’s more that there are so many wonderful things I have no idea where to start.
Last weekend I was reminded of a very important milestone for Firefighter Wife. It was the one year anniversary of the Sisterhood. Our Chief Fire Wife Lori asked each of us, “Why?” Why does this group of women mean so much to me that I would pay to chat with them on Facebook? Why do I need the Sisterhood? Why do other Fire Wives need the Sisterhood?
Here’s my thoughts on the Sisterhood: I seriously can’t believe it’s only been 1 year. I have met some amazing women in that 1 year. And I am proud to call each one of them my Sister. I found Firefighter Wife online before it went to the paid membership. And it was amazing then. I quickly joined the Private group instead of the public page. I needed my soft place to land just as I give my Firefighter his soft place to land (that place where even the toughest/bravest men need to rest their heads after a bad call, a long shift). When Lori announced that it was switching over to a paid membership and that the first 100 to sign up would be charter members… I jumped feet first and never looked back. That Charter Member Challenge Coin goes with me everyday, everywhere.
You may ask why does a Fire Wife need this group? A Fire Wife needs the Sisterhood because it shows us what a woman is meant to be. We are the support system for our husbands, his brother’s, and ourselves. We lift each other up, not tear each other down. We cry with each other and laugh with each other. We are not criticized. We may be gently kicked in the behind to remind us what we need to be and do but it is done with love.
A Fire Wife needs Firefighter Wife to help show her how to strengthen her relationship with her firefighter (the mission of Firefighter Wife is to strengthen marriages). Whether she does the Love Dare, reads Scream Free or 5 Love Languages, the Sisterhood will help her each step of the way. Where else can a Fire Wife find programs such as those listed and have the ability to complete them with a group of women who live the lifestyle we live, who understand the needs and the difficulties each of us face everyday?
The difference the Sisterhood has made in my life in the short year I have been a member is amazing. I never knew all of the things I could do to make sure I had a happy husband. I can look back over the past year and visibly see the bond between us grow stronger from what the Sisterhood has brought to my marriage. I can see this in the way my Firefighter responds to our conversations, my endeavors, etc. He spent an entire day by my side talking up Firefighter Wife. He talked to other Chief’s, other Firefighters, etc. showing each one of them why their Departments need the Sisterhood.